The value of things

Marie kondo and the magical power of tidying up, because the environmental order is mental order. Part 2

Going forward with reading the book, I discovered some very bizarre habits (no Westerner can really feel comfortable greeting and thanking objects), but others that made me feel better. The most striking example for me is about the bag.  I’m the friend who when you need something, i get it out of my bag, from medication, to handkerchiefs,to a mini sewing kit. It makes me feel comfortable having everything, I like to know that if anyone needed anything I could help him.  I bring spare parts of clothes, pens, candies and all sorts of things (including something more….you never know) all invariably amassed at the bottom of the bag along with coin receipts, hairpins and strange powder that is there, but I don’t know where it came from.  Then following the advice of my new friend Marie, every day when I come home I empty my bag, I throw away everything I don’t need and I keep organized in sachets, purses other things with the zip all that interests me to carry with me

When I wondered why it relaxed me, I realized that it depended on me, i was valuing my wish. I like to be an organized person, I like to make myself useful, I like to be comfortable and not have to rush into looking for remedies that I could have at hand. So I took this state of grace around me, in the environments where I spend time, both the office, my car, my bathroom and I started to be the way I wanted to be considered by others. Yes, because being organised makes you efficient and being efficient makes you credible and being credible makes you trustworthy. All things that certainly come in some field come in handy.

That’s ,if I had to be honest, the habit of tidying up my things made me rather happy because it approached me to an ideal and this allowed me to make a big change: if before others saw me as chaotic, messy and let’s say it also a little lazy, a little at a time I began to be the precise, reliable and (almost) always efficient.

In addition, another aspect not to be underestimated, surrounding myself with well-kept, functioning and presentable objects as well as making me feel comfortable and give me confidence when I am with others, allows me to be particularly happy to see that I am surrounded by beautiful things that I like. It makes me think of the efforts made to obtain them and how much it was worth it and therefore in conclusion how lucky and capable I am, not totally inemen (some weeks I admit they are eternal Monday mornings). This greatly improves my approach to the world and therefore yes, even in my opinion the tidying up has magical powers.

Decluttering

Marie kondo and the magical power of tidying up, because the environmental order is mental order. Part 1

This is a story of redemption, it is the story of a chronic messy person, proud almost to be that, proceeded in life on the back of slogans such as ‘ in my disorder I feel good ‘, ‘I have never lost anything’ etc. etc.

Which, in addition to being obviously false, further discredited everything I had and did. Yes, because that’s exactly the problem with mess, it takes away value. Nothing can be beautiful, nothing can be important or valuable, nothing is relevant if thrown there in the pile of other things. Once it happened the gravity that the effects of disorder could have on my life, I looked for a solution and came across this little Japanese woman who seemed to have all the answers I needed. Having to describe it in a few lines, Marie Kondo’s method can be summed up as throwing away the superfluous and keeping only objects that really matter. At this point the objects are stored finding for each one a suitable and functional placement. Proceeding from room to room, category by category, drawer by drawer, until the whole house has been reorganized and organized.  You have to pass over some things, which although understandable and in some respects admirable, I did not really feel like doing, for example throwing away books or some souvenirs or even certain objects that I keep because they remind me of something or someone. On the other hand, however, I can say (and not just me) that decluttering is a therapeutic action. We often don’t really notice how many things clog our lives, thoughts and actions.  There were a few things that I even wondered why I had kept them until then. Here is the podium of the most satisfying decluttering categories (and that if you do not want to revolutionize home in my opinion are already enough to relax your brain)

1Clothes that are not good for me now, but when I finish the diet (which Technically I have not started yet) they will fit me

I don’t think it’s really necessary  to say why i think it’s an act bordering on masochism, but in a nutshell it’s like hanging a sign in the closet that says, ‘As you are, you’re not going well.’ Streeeessss

2 Useless or even worse gifts

Those who grew up with a minimally decent mother know that you have to receive gifts with a smile and always thank you. That’s all, it doesn’t say that we have to keep objects, clothes or various stuff that we don’t like or, even worse, makes us feel somehow inadequate. It’s just a lot of effort, whether you keep them tidy or feel guilty. Better cut the problem to the root.

3 Paperwork

It often happens to me with receipts, but I know there is people who keep with them all kinds of paper that comes from others, whether they are postcards, receipts, warnings etc. Usually for these things there is only a temporary place, something like ‘I’ll put it here then I’ll put it away’, but the reality is that there is no place for them in the world, not even inside your home. At this point is required a real act of courage , so dear anxious friend, close your eyes, take all that pile of cards in your hands and throw it in the trash. There is nothing you need in there, you would not find it anyway and having it constantly reminds you that maybe you would have something to do, to pay, to communicate and that you are not sure to remember it and maybe you should check it, but in reality you do not want to know and so on … no no throw, throw everything away.

In a short time I realized that I was lighter, for example choosing the clothes with which to go out no longer created that anxiety from ‘I have nothing to put’ because I no longer had a wardrobe of clothes that could be put on.

So when you feel a little overwhelmed, it’s useful to get on a drawer or shelf, because it really helps to make room, both real and metaphorical ( and maybe even to organize a little better with the times).